Tuesday, February 3, 2015

"Socha Na Tha" | "How can you not know it? Seriously?"

I like writing. More than writing, I like to read what I've written over and over. The satisfaction that it gives me should be enough to get me to write every day. Unfortunately, there is another factor involved in every writer's life and that is laziness. When it comes to me, it overrides everything and never let's me write. But when I do write, it always means, that somehow I overcame that massive burden and set aside my laziness. This really means that the idea really touched me and I want to get it out of me, lest pondering over it suffocates my mental sanity in my daily life.

Such a strong introduction might suggest that I would be writing something deeply philosophical or political or whatver that is of great importance in this dying world. But you might be disappointed. I am going to write my first movie review ever. I've always wanted to start writing movie reviews, being inspired by one of the smartest bloggers - Kaushik Chatterji aka Jaadoo. So today, I'll talk about a relatively unknown film which goes by the same title as this post - Socha Na Tha. Some of you might wonder, how and why would the need to review a random movie move be enough for me to set aside that massive giant of laziness and grab my keyboard. Well, I have my reasons and you are free to speculate.

I watched Socha Na Tha, a long while ago. In a time when I had no liking for films and moreover an evident repugnance for romantic films. It is an unusual love story, involving simple people. The story is pretty straightforward albeit not the one you usually get to see in a typical Bollywood film. It was made by then a rookie, Imtiaz Ali and had newcomers like Abhay Deol and Ayesha Takia. And just to remind you, I saw this film before I was an Abhay Deol fan. The USP of the film is how with a simple story, Imtiaz Ali really churns out something unique. Up until now, I used to think that it's painfully accurate. But, I correct myself and now say that it has a lot of reality with a fairytale-ish ending. 

The story goes like this. The boy's family alongwith the boy visits the girl's family with a rishta. But the boy is just out of college and is not very serious about life. Morever he has a girlfriend. The girl is also pretty cool and they both just decide that they don't like each other and shouldn't marry. The rishta goes all south and their families move on. But, this movie being this movie, they remain friends and start getting close to each other. Unfortunately both of them get engaged before the boy finally realizes that he likes the girl. But then it's too late. Then come's the unexpected and thoroughly entertaining ending.

The thing which I like most about the movie is the flippant yet honest nature of the protagonist in the movie. I didn't realize it back then, but now being in the same age group as that of him, I realize how true it is. This realization actually made me like the movie even more. This is exactly what you are when you are in your mid 20s. You don't know what you want. You don't know what's good for you. In a time when everyone including and espicially your parents want you to know to atleast what you want in life, you are under constant pressure. I mean, how hard can it be to know what you want? Even a child knows what kind of he/she wants. But well, it's not for nothing they call it quarter-life crisis. I haven't come across any other movie which puts is so beautifully intertwining it a real thing which every Indian boy or girl of that age has to go through: Shaadi!

Speaking of the end, it's fairytale-ish. The girl and the guy elope and we are left to think that it's all happy ever. But in Imtiaz Ali's defense, it is the only way it could work out. It is fairy-tailish, because the guy realizes it at exactly the right time. Even though things are messed up, he does his best to convince the girl. There's not guarantee of all this happening in real life. Most importantly, the girl agreeing to the guy's crazy plans. Finally, it's a movie and should be taken as one!

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

A few words to the graduating students...

Dear friends,

So, finally a long journey is about to end for you guys. I don't want to sound pedagogical and bore you guys by a long speech here. It's just that since i have been through the experience with my friends, I find this urge to share a few thoughts which pass through my mind as I remember those beautiful moments...

The very fact that you are an Agnelite (or an MU student) implies that you have cursed the College, not once, but hundreds of times, in the past four years. I was no different from you guys. But let me tell you this, you are going to miss it. Oh No! Not 'the college' or it's buildings or the classrooms or friends or for that matter anything in particular. Why do I say that I am not talking about you missing your friends? Because that is implicit knowledge. Of-course  you are going to miss your friends and I don't need to tell you that. In fact, you will stay in touch, no doubt. Moreover, you will be making new friends as you move on in life. Then what am I talking about?

Well, I am talking about all these individual things put together. Nothing on it's own will be of any meaning to you guys from now on. But, put these small meaningless things together, and its a recipe for giving you pangs of regret and wet eyes a few years down the line! The college stairs are not worth remembering of-course  But put yourself and your classmates sprawled over them, writing on those assignment sheets with all your might and it will definitely move you. Once again, its not your friends you will miss here. It's the combination of people writing and those staircases. Nobody wants to remember the canteen and it's food for obvious reasons. But you are going to miss the act of getting your plates with your hostel-mates and eating the same old food and then cribbing about it. I accept the foyer was beautiful, but it is meaningless without those countless hours spent there doing nothing with friends. I will refrain myself from giving more instances of this, since there are countless and I think I have made my point here.

So what does this call for? Well, most of you, and I mean it, are not going to realize the magnitude of this moment in your life. I speak from experience. And there is nothing wrong in it, since it is so unreal. In most cases, it is denial which prevents us from acknowledging that the happy college life is finally over. Whereas in a a few cases, it just takes some time for the thought to seep in. While, in a few other cases, like mine, you can see it all the way. You can see that its over. The careless, happy-go-lucky and the fun days of our lives are gone. You can think whatever you want, but eventually you will face reality. It will hit you and it will hit you hard. It's just a matter of time.

So what? Well, if you are the sort of a person who can see this and doesn't want to fool yourself by saying that nothing's over, that you will keep on meeting your friends, that you will keep on enjoying the way you have been doing it over the past few years, then you know what to do! But, if you are one of those, who think all this is crap and emotional stuff meant to weaken you and if you are one of those, who makes fun of people who think this way, then I have one small advice for you. And what is that?

Well, neither do I want to judge you, nor do I want you to judge me. Just do yourself and people around you one small favor. I don't want you to believe whatever I just said. It's alright. You don't have to. Just pretend that you believe in it. Now once you do that, I want you to try and think what you would actually do if you were to believe in whatever I said. Now please do those things (without actually believing). What can you do? Anything and everything that will make these last few days of your college life beautiful.

Spend as much time as you can with your friends. Go out for lunch, dinner, whatever. Stay back in college doing nothing. Capture every moment with your friends. Pictures do help. Talk to those people in your class, who you never spoke to. Move out of your niche group if you can. Make sure nobody dislikes you. Apologize if you think you have done something wrong. Now is not the time to protect that ego of yours. Take videos of these last moments. Go and meet your favorite teacher if you have one (I had Jaikishan Sir and Archana Mam). If you can, then write. Write about your experience regarding the past four years. It becomes difficult to let your emotions turn into words once these moments pass. One fine day, these pictures, videos and writings are going to be a source of the greatest emotions you will ever feel. These very things will eventually give you teary smiles or smiling tears (whatever you would like to call them).

So what's going to happen with all this. Well, if all this is indeed correct, then in future you are going to be very very happy that you did so much to preserve these last few moments; moments which are going to adorn your life forever. If not, its not going to change anything in a bad way. May be, it will just make those around you realize how much you love them and give all of you a reason to smile.

My best wishes with you guys. Stay cheerful and stay happy. May you reach great heights in your life.